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Vincent j Kellsey listed in Google Search as a Success Skills Expert,on page 8 of the Success Skills Experts Directory, alongside Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Norman Vincent Peale, Zig Ziglar, Stephen Covey, Oprah Winfrey, Dennis Kelly and Erin Kelly.

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“Every breakthrough is preceded by a breakdown. The good news is that 80% of the time it means you are on the verge of a quantum leap forward in whatever area you are experiencing the breakdown in, be it finances, business, health, or relationship”  ~Vincent j Kellsey

 

In 2010 I was running a successful coaching, speaking, and seminar business changing people’s lives and making good, if not great, money.

In 2011, I was living in a friend’s tiny back room, sleeping on the floor, going to a job I hated, waking in the middle of the night feeling like I was going to go insane with fear and dread and anxiety, knowing there was nowhere to run. I even considered taking my own life to escape the agony.

In 2012, I followed a dream and moved to Asia, I published a book, I led amazing and successful events for companies such as Warner Bros. in Hollywood, more than doubled my income, found the true love of my life, and found joy and happiness again.

So what was it that led me from success to despair and back again to success?What was the turning point that brought me back from total breakdown to breaking through to even greater success and happiness than I had experienced before the breakdown?

I was in a long term relationship that was not working, to put it mildly. My partner left our relationship 3 times in a span of five years, and the first time she left I was utterly devastated, shattered, and I completely lost myself, my identity, my personal power, and my life direction. How is it that we can put so much of ourselves into another person, so much so that if that person leaves we lose ourselves? I am far from an expert on that topic and will not attempt to delve into it, however I know that it happens to many people, and in reality has nothing to do with the relationship, and everything to do with our own sense of self worth, self power, and self esteem.

This type of breakdown can happen to people in any area, when they lose a job, lose someone they love, lose a home, have a major health challenge, etc. It can seem like our life and the world has crashed down and is over, and some even take their lives at this point. For me, I experienced what it was like to almost lose my mind, go over that “edge” we all fear…I saw that edge, walked it, and came back into the light.

So how did I get out? How did I walk away from that edge, never to look back?

I used the power of an emotion that is considered “negative” to save my life and transform fear into power. A friend did something that to me was a betrayal of trust and an abuse of friendship, and I simply got very, very, VERY, angry.

And I discovered something. That anger has power in it, whereas despair leaves you powerless. It is far far better to be angry than to give up, because the power of anger can be turned into action, which can be turned into results, which leads to breakthrough and transformation.

I am grateful to that friend, for they truly saved my life by prompting me to transform my despair into the power to take action. I now teach others how to transform fear into power, and my mission in life is to help people find true freedom and inspire them to step up and become leaders and teachers, showing others the way to freedom. In the words of Buddha, until all of us are free, none of us are free.

To your freedom!

 

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Transformational Leadership: Becoming a “Golden Dragon”

Leadership and mastery, two words that are virtually synonymous as it almost seems that you cannot have one without the other.  Leaders are typically masters of what they do, and most masters become leaders as they share of their mastery with others.

How does one become a leader, and what is this idea of transformational leadership?  There are 3 levels you must pass through to reach the level of mastery that allows you to become a true transformational leader. These 3 levels are as follows:

1)      Leadership of Self

2)      Leadership of Others

3)      Global Leadership

Leadership of self involves learning to master your own thoughts and emotions. This is the critical step to master, because until you do this you are too easily “taken out of the game” by your own mind and emotional reactions to things outside of yourself.  Once you have learned to master your own thoughts and emotions, you are able to become fully present in the moment, leading others, and serve those you are leading no matter what is going on in your own life. This dictates having the ability to respond to any situation rather than react.  Those who have achieved at least some degree of self mastery are able to be fully present in any given moment or situation, and respond to it with authority and leadership.

The third and final level of leadership happens when you begin to take action on the fulfillment of a bigger vision, a global vision for the betterment of the world and humanity as a whole.  The “win/win” world as envisioned by Buckminster Fuller. When you have reached this place on your leadership journey, you can know that you have moved into true transformational leadership, what I call becoming a “Golden Dragon.”   I envision a global network of Golden Dragons crisscrossing the planet, enlightened entrepreneurs bringing peace to the world through business, and all of our work at Quantum Success Group is directed toward helping create and develop leaders and leadership initiatives through coaching and live events so that this vision can become a reality by 2020.

Wishing you success and freedom on your leadership journey!



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I just received this in my email -and thought it was such good advice I would post it up here in my blog.

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You’ve got your suitcases packed, your airline booked and you’re on your way to a live event.

But you’re a little nervous. You’ve already spent a bunch of money, you’re about to spend a bunch more on hotels and food, not to mention the time away from your business and life. Will this turn into a good investment (i.e. help your business grow) or will it end up being just a waste of time and money?
That’s an excellent question and as someone who has attending more than her share of events with fabulous (and not-so-fabulous) results, let me share my 3 secrets to getting the most out of your attending events.
1. Set your intentions on what you want to get out of the event. Are you looking for joint venture partners? New clients? New ideas or information you can implement in your business? Is there someone you really want to meet in person? All of the above? Something else entirely?
It doesn’t matter how you define a successful event, what’s important is that you actually spell out what you want to have happen and make it as clear as possible.
If you’re not clear on what you want, then your results could end up being equally murky. You want to visualize exactly what would have to happen for this to be a successful event for you.
Let me take a moment and share a quick story about this. At an event I recently attended, I was walking through the dining room at dinnertime and I saw a woman sitting by herself. I went up to her and asked if she wanted some company, which she did. It turned out she had set the intention for meeting ME at this event and we’ve ended up doing a couple of joint ventures together. Isn’t it amazing once you set the intention how the Universe actually delivers it?
2. Don’t just hang around your “crowd.” There’s no question that one of the reasons why I love going to events is I can reconnect with all my old friends and colleagues. However, as much as I treasure the face-to-face bonding, I also want to meet new friends and colleagues too.
Make a point of having either lunch, dinner, drinks, etc. with a new group each day. That gives you the opportunity to meet new people without going too far out of your comfort zone. (Now, if the thought of that is making you break out into a cold sweat, take a deep breath. Bring a friend with you, just don’t only talk to your friend. Or only do this once or twice in the few days you’re there and slowly work your way up. You’ll probably discover the vast majority of the people at these events are just as eager and just as nervous as you are, and it all ends up working itself out.)
3. Manage your energy. This is a big one I never see anyone talk about but it’s really important. Events are exhausting. Period. Between being “on” when you meet people to absorbing all the information that’s flying at you, it can wear you out.
So it’s important to know your limits and listen to your body. You don’t have to be at every single networking opportunity. It’s okay to skip a group lunch or dinner and get room service.
Everyone is going to have different limits and whatever that is, it’s perfect for you and you should honor it. The last thing you want to do is wear yourself out so much that when that perfect client DOES show up on Day 3, you’re not so drained you don’t properly represent yourself (and end up losing the sale).

To your success,

Michele PW

Your $Ka-Ching!$ Marketing Strategist

Michele Pariza Wacek

Creative Concepts and Copywriting

LLCPO Box 10430Prescott, AZ 86304

877-754-3384

 

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Hocus Focus

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2011
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I am writing this while traveling at over 700 miles an hour somewhere far above the Pacific Ocean.  I am on the red eye from Honolulu, HI to Vancouver,BC  and while many people around me are sleeping or watching movies-I am writing this blog posting.  Why?

Having a Burning Goal

Because I have a goal- and I have learned that when you set a goal, if you honestly want to achieve it you will do whatever it takes, even if that means working while other people are resting. I saw an interview with Will Smith and he attributed his astounding success to the fact that he will out work, out practice, and out study anyone in his commitment to his goal. It often seems like magic when we look at successful people, and we wonder how on earth do they do it.  Here is the secret…it is an ancient magic spell called Hocus Focus.

Abracadabra

Hocus Focus Abracadabra! and suddenly success appears almost overnight.  But there is always an illusion behind every magic trick and this one is no different. While most magicians will not reveal their secrets, I am going to tell you the real secret behind this one. Ready?  Here is it…..that overnight success took years of hard work and focused, disciplined action to make the trick work. Bummer huh?  Guess I am not going to get rich selling this one!

Coming From the Heart

Focus is not always easy to achieve, but when you lock onto a goal that really comes from your heart, and you feel inspired with a sense of mission and of purpose, focus suddenly becomes, while not effortless, far easier than you could ever have imagined.

If you have not found that burning passion, mission, vision, dream or purpose yet- if you are seeking inspiration, connection, renewal, discovery, and a deep sense of personal power, there is no better place to find that than at the upcoming Golden Dragon Transformational Leadership Training , November 14th to the 20th 2011.

Just follow the link to find out more and register today!

http://quantumsuccessgroup.com/golden-dragon/

To Your Success and Freedom,

Vincent j Kellsey

 

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The greatest breakthrough you will ever have in your business, no matter what your business is – is the ability to learn how to speak effectively and speak with confidence and clarity. It’s hard to get your message out to the world, or to even have an audience really connect with you and understand what you’re saying, unless you can clearly communicate to them what it is that you are trying to communicate.

It’s The Single Most Important Skill

As a speaker, trainer and coach, I understand that marketing yourself on the Internet is essential to not only growing your business, but having a sustainable business at all today. One key component of the marketing of yourself is the ability to clearly show up in video. This is something I struggle with myself, as we can often be our own worst critics. I would like to share with you one tip that could possibly help you in being more effective in conveying your message through video.

Here is the tip: be bigger than you are.

What does that mean -be bigger than you are? It means that when you communicate to people in your “regular” state, that state might be fairly low key or it might be excited and loud – but however it is, when you are on camera, just be “more” of yourself. Imagine a pendulum, and where you normally communicate from the pendulum is hanging straight down and balanced. That’s fine when you’re talking to somebody one-on-one, or even for speaking in front of a few people, but if you really want to energize your message and be heard and felt through the screen, you need to learn how to crank it up.

It’s What It Takes, To Succeed As An Expert In Your Field

TV CameraIn essence, this is about turning who you are from a five up to ten just for that period of time. This is not faking it, or trying to be someone you are not, it is just allowing more of your power, clarity, focus, conviction and authenticity to come through.

Now this was advice that I got from someone who does video professionally and at first it was really hard, because I felt like I was not being real or being authentic.

Then he showed me the before and after videos of myself – on the first video that I did just being me, just talking normally, it came through feeling rather weak and with not much “oomph”. In the second video, which I did after a little coaching – the one where I was being more of me that I normally would, the one where I felt like I was overacting and over-exuberant and almost being inauthentic –I actually came through much more powerfully. I was much more congruent and much more like me, which was incredibly surprising!

So, my tip to you is to have somebody film you giving your message, someone that you really trust and can do this work in front of.

Practice saying the message that you want to get through until you feel comfortable with it, and then do in front of the camera. Do at least two takes, one where you talk as you normally would, then one where you are “more of you”. You’ll see and hear the difference.

Get Excited, And The Results Will Excite You

If you are having trouble getting yourself into an excited state, just pretend like you have just won the lottery or that you have achieved all your dreams. How excited you are about that is what you try to convey to your potential clients .

Set yourself on fire with enthusiasm and people will drive for miles to watch you burn

Your potential customers want to know what you can do for them. They want to know that not only do you love what you do, but that it is working for you. If you are a speaker, a trainer, coach, a leader, someone with a message to get out to the world – this is especially vital to you. It may be the single most important thing that determines your business success. The old saying “set yourself on fire with enthusiasm and people will drive for miles to watch you burn” really holds true here. Set yourself on fire with the enthusiasm of your message and people will come to your tele-seminars, to your live events, to your webinars – they will want to have more of what you are offering, and will buy from you to get it.

Here is one last tip: before you go on camera to record your message, think about who you are serving, why you are serving them, and how your message, product, seminar, etc – can really help them to have better lives. Take the time to align your heart and mind and spirit – and you will come through loud and clear. Remember – when you lead from the heart, when you serve from the heart, your message or products truly help people, and you take consistent action to let people know what you have to offer them, success will surely follow.

To Your Greatest Success Ever,

Vincent j Kellsey

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