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Vincent j Kellsey listed in Google Search as a Success Skills Expert,on page 8 of the Success Skills Experts Directory, alongside Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Norman Vincent Peale, Zig Ziglar, Stephen Covey, Oprah Winfrey, Dennis Kelly and Erin Kelly.

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“Every breakthrough is preceded by a breakdown. The good news is that 80% of the time it means you are on the verge of a quantum leap forward in whatever area you are experiencing the breakdown in, be it finances, business, health, or relationship”  ~Vincent j Kellsey

 

In 2010 I was running a successful coaching, speaking, and seminar business changing people’s lives and making good, if not great, money.

In 2011, I was living in a friend’s tiny back room, sleeping on the floor, going to a job I hated, waking in the middle of the night feeling like I was going to go insane with fear and dread and anxiety, knowing there was nowhere to run. I even considered taking my own life to escape the agony.

In 2012, I followed a dream and moved to Asia, I published a book, I led amazing and successful events for companies such as Warner Bros. in Hollywood, more than doubled my income, found the true love of my life, and found joy and happiness again.

So what was it that led me from success to despair and back again to success?What was the turning point that brought me back from total breakdown to breaking through to even greater success and happiness than I had experienced before the breakdown?

I was in a long term relationship that was not working, to put it mildly. My partner left our relationship 3 times in a span of five years, and the first time she left I was utterly devastated, shattered, and I completely lost myself, my identity, my personal power, and my life direction. How is it that we can put so much of ourselves into another person, so much so that if that person leaves we lose ourselves? I am far from an expert on that topic and will not attempt to delve into it, however I know that it happens to many people, and in reality has nothing to do with the relationship, and everything to do with our own sense of self worth, self power, and self esteem.

This type of breakdown can happen to people in any area, when they lose a job, lose someone they love, lose a home, have a major health challenge, etc. It can seem like our life and the world has crashed down and is over, and some even take their lives at this point. For me, I experienced what it was like to almost lose my mind, go over that “edge” we all fear…I saw that edge, walked it, and came back into the light.

So how did I get out? How did I walk away from that edge, never to look back?

I used the power of an emotion that is considered “negative” to save my life and transform fear into power. A friend did something that to me was a betrayal of trust and an abuse of friendship, and I simply got very, very, VERY, angry.

And I discovered something. That anger has power in it, whereas despair leaves you powerless. It is far far better to be angry than to give up, because the power of anger can be turned into action, which can be turned into results, which leads to breakthrough and transformation.

I am grateful to that friend, for they truly saved my life by prompting me to transform my despair into the power to take action. I now teach others how to transform fear into power, and my mission in life is to help people find true freedom and inspire them to step up and become leaders and teachers, showing others the way to freedom. In the words of Buddha, until all of us are free, none of us are free.

To your freedom!

 

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Playing It Safe

It is true that we can tend to fall into a rut in our lives, play it safe and then wonder why we seem to lack the spark that we used to have , the passion for life. I know it has happened to me – and I finally realized why.

Pushing the Boundaries

When we push our boundaries, live close the edge, outside our comfort zone – depending what we are doing it can actually be a life or death situation like climbing a mountain or driving a race car hundreds of miles an hour – or our minds can just think it is a life or death situation because of the fear that we feel.  But when we stop and think about how we felt after the fear has passed, or when we moved into the fear and then out of it again- we often feel more alive, energized and excited than we did before.  Why is this?  Because we have, consciously or unconsciously, transformed that fear into power.

Bring it On!

When we realize this, we can use the very  fear that used to stop us as fuel to achieve things greater than we ever realized we could. If we can simply change what that feeling of fear means to us, we can change it from ” oh my god – fight or flight”  to ” I am ready to rock and roll- bring it on!”  and feel more alive than we have ever felt before. And in that lies true freedom.

To your greatest success and freedom,

Vincent j Kellsey

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You know how it goes… ” I am going to do that ! ”  But then…

It is so easy to talk action, but much harder to take action on the talk.

Ask yourself today…am I talking or taking?  Then GO DO IT!

To Your Success and Freedom,

Vincent j

 

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The Golden Dragon program is not just another leadership program; it is all about becoming a “transformational leader”- being able to lead others through experiences that can transform their lives at a deep level.

Transformation

I wanted to share with you an excerpt from an email I received from someone who had come and walked the fire at one of the QSG Firewalk Experience events:

“The strength that I got from the firewalks helped when it came time to trust myself. Knowing that strength was there, I could afford to let go, go back and meet my inner child, the one that was always scared and hurt and angry, and connect with her, hug and heal her, honour her pain, and rejoice with her my triumphs. I went through a transformation, which brought me to the blissful state of actually for the first time in my life feeling genuine, soul-deep, unconditional love for myself – what a difference. All “sins” forgiven finally, no more “soul-beatings” or self-recriminations, but also full responsibility for my part in it all. The firewallks were an integral part of the opening of the love-channel. By facing the fire I proved my own courage and strength and my willingness to take on the tough. Amazing stuff! “

Transformational Tools

One of the “Ancient Secrets”  that you will learn and become certified in at Golden Dragon is the firewalk experience. Tools like the firewalk are truly tools of transformation, and while it is only the first step on the journey of transformation, for many people, that first step is the hardest, and once they have made it, discovered the true extent of their own strength, courage and personal power, their lives begin to transform-and they often find a newfound joy and passion for this great adventure we are all on together.

It is a true fact that we cannot help others without helping ourselves, and when you come to Golden Dragon Transformational Leadership Training and learn how to create and lead transformational experiences like this for others, you will find that inevitably you will have a truly transformational experience for yourself.

To your Success and Freedom,

Vincent j Kellsey

 

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The Law of Attraction. The Law of Reciprocity. Universal Laws. But are they? These concepts are taught as “universal laws”, yet how can we say with total authority that these are really immutable laws? How would we know that?

Opinions

I believe they are truly theories and opinions. And on that concept-I would like to introduce to you a theory of my own, one that is the core of the concepts taught in the Golden Dragon Transformational Leadership Training, and in The Great Adventure: Your Quest for Money Mission and Meaning.As you might have guessed based on the title,  the concept I am proposing is called the Theory of Connectivity.

Theory of Connectivity

It pre-supposes that not only are you and I connected to each other through an invisible web of energy called ether, but that we are also connected to everyone and everything else on this planet, and in fact the universe as a whole. That connection is “the source”, God, Allah, Buddha Nature, call it what you will- it is all the same energy that is at the root of all life and all creation. Through our connection to this web of energy – we experience “miracles”, such as the heart in the sky in my previous blog posting, things or people showing up in your life just as you need them, finding the exact change in your pocket for that item that you did not know earlier you would be wanting to buy…you get the picture.

I had an experience of this just yesterday that I would like to share with you- and you decide for yourself what explains it-if indeed anything can.I was engaged in a moment of quiet, a meditation, and had a sudden picture of my Uncle, who I was dropping off at the train station later that evening, pulling out his wallet and saying “Thank you for the ride, I want to give you some gas money for your partners car “and saw him pull $20 out of his wallet. I declined, he insisted and so it was done.  I had a thought, “That would be nice” then promptly forgot all about it. Fast forward to later that evening- I am dropping my Uncle off at the train station, having borrowed my partners car for the trip (I had fully intended earlier to take mine) – what does he do but pull out his wallet, tell me he wants to give me some money for gas for my partners car, and gives me $20, which of course I declined, and he insisted.  Hmmmm…. this was sounding familiar…. So…

Four Possibilities

I conclude there are 4 possibilities as to how and why this unfolded the way it did, exactly as I had seen it in a brief thought earlier in the day.

1) I “created it” by thinking about it, as the Law of Attraction teaches.

2) It was going to happen anyway, and I just had a glimpse of the coming future, as the Theory of Connectivity teaches.

3) I have a basis of history with my uncle, a good idea of his personality, and I just extrapolated a likely outcome.

4) We are all connected, I thought the idea and in essence “sent it out to the ether” – he picked it up and accepted it, and so it became reality.

I will leave it for you to decide which one it might be, or if indeed it is a combination of all of them.  Regardless, this type of phenomenon happens to us all on a regular basis, and what it shows us is that we are much more than we think we are, that we are capable of so much more than we think we are, and when we learn to become centered, open our hearts, live and lead from a place of love- these type of happenings become commonplace because we are in the flow- and life becomes easier and more joyful as a result.  You experience better relationships, less fear, more peace of mind, less stress, better health, and a very good chance of a longer, happier, healthier life filled with love and joy and happiness.

Living in the Flow

This is what we will be teaching in the fall at the Golden Dragon Transformational Leadership Training- not just how to be a more effective leader, not just how to lead people safely and effectively through amazing transformational experiences, not just how to master your mind and master your fear, but how to live in joy, with an open heart, peaceful spirit- and be an example of the type of life possible for anyone if they choose it.

To Your Success and Freedom,

Vincent j Kellsey

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The last Oprah show was one of the best things that I have ever seen- for one reason.

One Thing in Common

Oprah shared the fact that in 25 years of doing her show, having over 30,000 people come across her stage, all with different issues and from different backgrounds and in different places in their lives, they all had one thing in common.

At the Core

At the core root of their problems in life or their challenges they were facing was one thing: a sense of unworthiness.They all felt somehow unworthy to have what they wanted, to be loved, to be successful, to be wealthy, to be admired, etc.  And they all wanted one thing: to be seen, to be heard, and to matter.

Celebrity Obsession

Why are we so obsessed with celebrities? Because for the majority of people, they do not feel seen, feel heard, or feel like they matter. Celebrities are seen, are heard, and seem to be very important people that matter.  So we live vicariously through them, instead of embracing our own lives and really believing that we too are “good enough”, “worthy enough”, or “loved enough”.

If I could only ever say one thing to you it is this:  I see you, I hear you, who you are matters. Now go and tell the people that you love. Go and tell that homeless person on the street. Go look in the mirror and tell the person who needs to hear it the most. Live everyday like it is your last- because one day you will be right.

To your Success and Freedom,

Vincent j Kellsey

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